7- The size of the bed is less overwhelming for a small child.
8- There are so many cute toddler bed designs to choose from.
Cons of a Toddler Bed
1- There is not a lot of room for your toddler to move around so if they are a restless sleeper they will be banging into the rails.
2- Generally you will only get a year or two out of them so it is another temporary piece of furniture.
3- There is no room for an adult to lay on the bed with the toddler to read books, cuddle and so forth.
4- Most will not hold up to larger siblings sitting on them there are weight limits on most.
5- Over the long haul you will have spent more money.
For us, we did go to a toddler bed. Little Miss was obsessed with her Pop-Pops car and he found a car bed for her at a good price. That was a year ago when she was almost two. She is a very tall girl and an extremely restless sleeper. Her arms and legs would bang into the sides of the bed and wake her.
So we recently moved her into a twin. I fully believe it would have been a better choice right from the start
For those worried about the height of a twin bed, you could start with just the mattress and box spring and later on add the frame. Bedrails are a simple addition to prevent a small child from accidentally rolling out of bed.
While the toddler bed was a fun addition to her room she sleeps far better in her twin bed now.
This guest post was written and submitted by Tilly Sanders .
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Not many children like cleaning and this is not surprising. Kids adore playing and if we lose them of sight for just a couple of minutes, they will make a real mess in our home. We can’t expect from our kids to clean like we do but we can at least encourage them to help us clean. This may not be as easy as it sounds but if you are patient and persistent enough, you can build the habit of cleaning in your child.
Here are some of the most important reasons why you should involve your kids in the process of cleaning.
They help you with the household chores
Children usually make a big mess when they are playing and never put the toys back in their rightful place. They also don’t put the dishes near the sink, neither the dirty clothes in the laundry basket. However, children need to learn that like everybody else in the family, they also need to help with the cleaning, instead of waiting for somebody else to take care of everything.
They become more responsible
If your children help you with the cleaning, they will learn to take responsibilities and discover that it is not only playing that they need to be engaged in. This unpleasant activity will help them become reliable grown-ups.
They learn what is hard work
Cleaning is a great way for children to learn the importance of hard work. The knowledge that they need to put efforts for everything in life will help them achieve their goals easily.
They will develop important skills that can be applied later in life
Stimulate your kids to help you with the house work because they will acquire good qualities and later when they are independent, they will be able to deal with everything themselves and won’t depend on other people.
They learn to appreciate things
When children clean they actually see how much efforts it costs you to ensure clean and healthy atmosphere for them in your home. Knowing that they are those who will clean later, they won’t walk with dirty feet inside anymore and will keep everything clean.
You will spend more time together
If it was possible, kids would spend every minute with their parents. If you are working too much and often arrive home when your children are already sleeping, cleaning may be a good way to spend more time together. Just present it as a pleasant game and don’t concentrate on results too much. This is how your children won’t accept cleaning as an unpleasant duty.
They will build hygiene and healthy habits
Teach your children that they need to help you create clean and sanitized atmosphere in your home and one day when they are living in their own house, they will know how to maintain it clean. It gives a great feeling to be an example for your children.
There are many reasons why your kids should help you clean. However, all children are different. Some of them have no problems with helping with the house work, while others may not want to contribute to it at all. Fortunately, children are easily manipulated and if they have a good stimulation, they will always help you clean. Try different methods and choose what works best for your family. Keep in mind that your children are not able to clean your home the way you do and lower your expectations. Just involve your children in the household work and sooner or later they will get used to being part of the cleaning crew.
Bio: Tilly Sanders is an owner of a small cleaning company named Sparkling Cleaners London based in London, United Kingdom. She has one lovely child that she loves more than everything In her free time she likes to write articles related to cleaning, organizing, and eco.
I am close to three people who have Bipolar. I will not disclose who they are for privacy reasons but, let’s just say I know very well what it means to love someone with bipolar.
Bipolar is like being on a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you can predict drop offs and others you just have to hang on because the next turn sends you into an unexpected spiral. Sometimes you are laughing and throwing your hands in the air and then other times you are clinging, simply holding on for dear life screaming it the top of your lungs.
watched as someone I loved made terrible choices.
seen them yell over nothing or laugh uncontrollably at nothing.
watched them ruin their very important relationships.
sadly watched them spend money they never really had to spend.
experienced them loving with all that they had.
had the pleasure of seeing them so proud of successes.
watched rage over the slightest failure.
stood by as a mood shifted so extremely they make me feel like I was spinning.
heard things I wish I could un-hear.
witnessed them create things so beautifully that you know their soul is so pure.
observed them destroy close to everything they owned.
been there in the happiest of times at their best.
celebrated them dancing like no one is watching even though everyone was.
loved them. Because we are all deserving of love.
According to the source, Brain & Behavior Research Foundation, “More than 5.7 million American adults or 2.6 percent of the population age 18 or older in any given year have bipolar disorder.”
It’s my personal thoughts that that number may be even higher as many do not ever seek help and are not diagnosed. My guess is if you found this you know someone who has bipolar or even may have it yourself.
Over the years living with people who have bipolar and having them in my life I have come up with things I do when it comes to my relationships with these people whom I love so dearly.
You must accept the fact bipolar is a part of their life but it does not completely define who they are.
People who have bipolar have personalities, hopes, dreams, and aspirations just like anyone else. They are not their illness they have an illness.
Bipolar is not an excuse for everything.
While bipolar does affect one’s choices you can not just use it as a way to brush off bad behavior. There was an incident where a bipolar child broke something that did not belong to them on purpose. It was very clear that they did it with mean intent and they were making clear choices. My first reaction was to brush it off as oh this happens a lot the illness causes them to act this way. No, that is not how life works. Life does not care if you have bipolar, people out there still expect basic respect. The law will also not care if you child grows up and blames bad choices on his or her mental health.We must teach them that early. Interestingly when the child was not expected to act that way and received proper loving discipline. They started working towards better behavior.
Know what their triggers are.
In my experience, both children and adults have triggers that can cause a fast shift in their mood.By no means am I saying you should tip toe around them. We all know some things simply can not be avoided. However, it if is something that does not need to be done or said it is often best just to avoid it. This cut down on so many manic episodes for us.
Appointments, medications and seeking help.
One person in particular that I am close with needed to be often reminded that their mental health appointments and their medications were so very important. Yes, everyone case is different but for us, the medications and therapy would start helping some and their response was to stop the medications because they felt” fine”. At the very least I was able to break that cycle sometimes. If a person you love is threatening to harm themselves or someone else please make a phone call to get them help right away. Please, never brush it off. Ever.
Set clear boundaries for yourself.
There are certain things I will not put up with. I won’t bend or break on them. It does not matter if the person suffers from mental health issues or they do not. My lines in the sand are there. If they are crossed there are consequences. For example, should I have a friend with bipolar (or not ) and they were to intentionally physically harm me or a child of mine. The friendship would end. That is one of my boundaries.
Give yourself a break.
Go grab a coffee with friends, go for a walk, find a hobby you love especially when the person you love is having a manic episode. Make sure they are safe and take that time for you. Being around someone who is manic is emotionally and physically exhausting. There is nothing wrong with needing time away, in fact, it is a very healthy habit to form.
Be an advocate
If the person you love is a child or an adult has difficulty expressing themselves to their doctor, schools, family please make sure they get heard. If it is a child and a doctor will not listen perhaps finding a new practice. So many times people with bipolar or parents of children with bipolar get brushed off by the medical profession when they voice their concerns. I have stood up many times as a voice to be heard and it has ended a lot of heartache and frustration.
Know what comforts them.
For some people it is a favorite blanket wrapped snugly around them, maybe for someone else, it is just a change of scenery, a hug or even to just be left alone. Comfort and familiarness are often very needed by someone who is manic, or depressed.
Remember no one chooses to be mentally ill.
Love and compassion go a long way they did not ask for this, cause it or choose it. While someone with bipolar disorder can become extremely frustrating or worrisome try not to be angry with them, don’t beg them to change or demand they stop being this way. This is not a choice, it simply is.
I am by no means an expert
I am simply put a person who loves and is loved by people that have bipolar disorder. For more information, you can check out the following resources. What I have written are things I have done over the years that have worked for me personally.
Bipolar is not all negative. Some of the most creative, smart, energetic, full of life, fun people I know are bipolar. They are wonderful people that have a mental health disorder. The stigma placed on people with mental health is very disheartening. I have been through years of ups and downs with people who I love. I have stood up for them when they could not and you know what… they have done the same for me. At the end of the day, we are all simply human… please embrace one another through the perfection and the imperfections. #Love #Kindness #Compassion
I crack one eye open and there is her little face right up in mine the sun is up the birds are chirping, it’s morning… dang why do I feel so unrested?
“GIGA! I need to POOP on YOUR toilet.”
My brain is so foggy but I am starting to come to and question her motives since she is still wearing her diaper and not yet really potty trained. So I ask her. “Why?” (She is not potty trained she is potty learning.)
The howls ensure you just never ask why… and now I am wide awake sitting up. I slide out of bed coming face to face with the alarm clock. 5:30 am?I JUST went to bed. She grabs my hand dragging me through the house to the bathroom. Why are we going here again?
I pull her diaper off and set her on the toilet, excuse me MY BIG toilet and I sit on the edge of the tub and I suddenly realize that I need to pee. There she is sitting there staring at something on the ceiling little toddler legs dangling. Now I REALLY need to pee. Oh my gosh why do we always get rentals with one bathroom? So I open my big mouth. “Giga needs to pee are you almost done?” Mind you there has not been a single tinkle or stinky in the BIG toilet since she sat down 15 hours ago (Okay it was really three minutes but it felt like 15 hours.)
“Giga it’s my turn. I am pooping in the big toilet”
I consider that maybe it would not be too weird or really too awfully gross to pee in the tub… Yeah, it would be REALLY weird and REALLY gross. Then I would also have on my hands a peeing in the tub toddler for sure. Um haha, no thanks. Dang my Bladder, I bet my eyes are turning yellow because my body is surely filling up with urine. Oh lord, she’s on the tenth verse of the Days of The Week song. Yes, kiddo it feels likes it’s been weeks and weeks.
Finally, she jumps down. “I did it!” She really didn’t do a single thing but that toilet was all mine!!! Sweet relief.
She informs me I am a good girl and she is so proud of me and flushes the toilet 6 times for good measure.
I try to lure her back to bed. Not happening. She thinks I am crazy. I am sooo tired. She is clearly not because she could get two minutes of sleep and then do a triathlon. I figure she slept for at least 8 1/2 hours so she should be charged up for the next month.
Why does she not know how wonderful sleep is?
Running down her morning list.
Milk in the purple cup with the pink cover. Check
Eggs quickly scrambled in the microwave because there is no way on Gods green earth I am turning on the stove this early. Check
Why do these Youtube kids she is watching sound so cheerful this early….
I flick on my computer and scan Facebook and come across this video. Gosh, I love this lady! Be sure to subscribe to her. 🙂
Little Miss hears me on the computer and wants me to read a book at her.
Nope, change of plans in a millisecond you know toddler speed.
Now we need to do the daily calendar (if you don’t know what that it is was part of our Five on Friday post.)
So we do. I change the date, the day and she wants me to change the letter? She has been saying this for the longest time and I am lost so I pick her up and tell her to point to the “letter” and she points to the WEATHER! Oh lord yes the weather magnets ha! I slide cloudy into the weather spot. I am so tired of cloudy days and I am *yawn* so tired. She kisses me and tells me I am a good girl. I feel like I just solved the puzzle to life at this point.
Oh, and I forgot to change the mood where is the sleepy looking smiley face, Hmmm there is none would the sad one work? She senses my hesitation and is melting down my leg saying “The happy one! The happy one!” Of course right…the happy one.
I am making coffee. Side thought I seriously gotta try making those Coffee Popsicles today I found online. She runs to get the cream. Then she is kissing and hugging me again. She is so happy, bubbly and sweet this morning. Why am I focusing on how tired I am and how I would rather be in bed?
I look down into her little adoring eyes and realize that this morning I GET to be up with this sweet little girl. I get too. That is pretty profound. Yes it is early, yes I am tired but, she loves me and is she is enjoying these moments, treasuring them. I get to have these times. I am pretty much the luckiest person alive. She is my lottery, the big win, my once in a life time my sweet Little Miss.
And now as I write this she is sleeping soundly on the couch making peaceful little snores hugging her tablet. #Blessed #NoSleepForMe
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What little changes will make your children happier now and even later on in life?
When parenting, we all know life gets busy however these simple tips keep your children feeling happy, loved and most importantly at the top of your list.
Slather on the love and affection.
Children need to be hugged, kissed, patted on the back and told: “I love you.” Even in those less than adorable moments when it seems there is just one tantrum after the next those things remind them that no matter what they are loved, cared for a safe. It’s never okay to withhold your love from a child.
Get down with them and play.
Children learn through play. They learn so much more than you can imagine and when you get down there at their level you are showing interest in what is important to them in that moment. It tells them in a none verbal what you care about them and what they are doing. I play with Little Miss, I play with my big teenage boy. Let them lead you. You will be glad you did.
Listen to what they are saying.
Children are people. Though they are small or in some cases bigger they have interesting and important things to say. They key as parents are to let them talk, to really listen to what they are telling you without judgment or even fixing issues for them right away. I remember all through raising my children they would often come to me while I was washing dishes and just talk. I took that time to focus solely on what was being said to me and they knew it. Sometimes it was just silly little things and other times it was things that were heavy on their little hearts. So please if you want them to come to you just stop and listen.
Show love, kindness, and respect to your spouse and other family members.
Live and model the sort of relationships you hope they will one day themselves have. Children thrive on a solid foundation o the family. Embrace and love others so they can learn to do so as well. Even if your family is not the model family and Lord knows ours often is not… love respect and kindness go far.
Teach them to help out.
There is no reason not to expect children to help around the home. It makes them so much more included in all that goes on and gives them wonderful life long skills and good habits to bring into adulthood. Children feel pride in being part of all things great and small. Even in just sweeping a floor or planting a garden.
As women, we try to do it all. Most often things get done with the exception of self-love and care.
How many times have you heard a new mom or even a seasoned mom struggle with needing time alone?
I get it. Raising a family is a full-time hands-on job and some of you even have jobs and careers piled on top of that. It’s not easy to take time out of these busy days and just give that time to yourself.
What Moms are Saying…
Michelle – ” I get to go to the bathroom by myself…that’s about it. Yes, even going to the gym alone, I feel guilty. I already have to be away from them so much. The only time I get to carve time out for myself is when my husband and boys are watching sports on TV and I plug my headphones in to watch Netflix. That’s EXTREMELY rare though, because now I have to focus on writing because Sunday is the day that I get a lot of writing done.”
Hannah – I would love to take time to do something for me but I can’t my kids are always with me.
I do not feel guilty if by some chance i don’t do something with them because that is So rare it’s happened once since my second was born.
I get from the hours of 9 to 11 by myself witch actually I spend not even alone with my so cleaning up.
Patricia – ” It’s not alone per say, but my husband and I go away for a weekend with just the 2 of us every February. And once a month we go to lunch and Costco with just the 2 of us. And also shoot for a date night once a month. I don’t feel bad or guilty about this at all, and the kids get to spend quality time with their aunts and uncles and cousins.”
Rebecca-” I definitely take time to do things on my own. Yeah I’m a mother, but I’m still my own person too. I shouldn’t have to lose my own identity because I have a child.”
So when you do get time alone…
How many of us feel guilt. Raise your hand… Come on raise them. Yes, that’s more like it almost all of you. Us mommies are givers not takers but guess what? You deserve time for you and the things you enjoy. Not only do you deserve it. Mom, you know the truth here it is a need, a must do.
We all need time to recharge and refocus. Guess what, not only do you deserve it you owe it to you family, to your children and you. Because when you return, you will be happier and able to give of yourself better.
Yes, I get that we can not very often get a whole day away. Though you should do that as well sometimes but here are ten quick ideas for a quick mommy recharge while someone else is in charge of the baby, kids, dog, cat, fish, messes so for a moment forget all that.
A walk – Just get out into the fresh air and the sunshine. No matter how terrible I feel the sun always helps as does exercise. Are you feeling more adventurous? How about a hike?
A long hot bath – One rule no rubber duckies or small people asking questions like “Why are you in the tub? Can I come in?” Even better bring in a book to read while you soak. How about you add in some really wonderful Bath bombs and make it a treat?
Meet up with a friend – Go have a coffee or whatever it is both like. Imagine this an ice-cream you don’t have to share? Best of all you get to hear another adult chit chat and I am sure she won’t ask to lick your ice-cream or prevent you from drinking a coffee while it is hot!
Take a nap.- Yes, sleep is a wonderful tool for rejuvenation.
Go you your favorite store – Alone. Browse the aisles and no don’t run down to the toy isle because you feel guilty the kids are not in tow. Think of things you love. Make-up, a book, clothes, no…clothes for you, not the kids stay with me here.
Watch a movie – Find a favorite feel good movie or one you have been waiting to see that does not include trolls or any other animated character. I often do this at night after the little ones are tucked in instead of cleaning. The cleaning can wait.
Beauty time – Do something that makes you feel beautiful like a spa day, time at the gym, a manicure just anything that gives you a lift and makes you look and feel wonderful.
Take a class – Sharpen a skill or learn a new one. That is very grown up and cuts out a clear time for you to escape um I mean take a break. A friend of mine use to go to pottery class and made some really cool stuff. I should have taken up her offer to join her but I was busy thinking I was super mom. (I was really just super worn out mom) Hindsight ladies.
Got a Hobby? – Get a hobby something you immensely enjoy and make time for it.
Have an Adventure – Go for a drive, listen to your favorite music maybe go to a favorite spot or take a new road and go somewhere you have never been or wanted to see.
More from Our Moms…
Anonymous – In some ways I’m a bit of an introvert and need quiet alone time to refresh and regroup. No, I don’t feel one bit guilty. By taking care of myself it allows me to take better care of my kids. I’m a better mom when I don’t have to be switched on all the time. I take time to meet friends for dinner a couple times a month or just run to the store by myself and we try to have a date night once a month.
” you know you’re a mom when grocery shopping sans kids counts as “quiet, alone time”.
Anonymous– I’m usually not alone, unless they are in school and I go to the store, I go to get my hair done by myself that’s the only thing I do alone.
When I’m at work, I feel guilty, especially if it is a weekend or they are on break.
Jessica – “Yes, sometimes. But rarely and it’s never anything fun. Sometimes when the kids are at school I’ll have someone watch The little one so I can shop alone or go to an appointment.”
Tanya – I don’t remember a time since my girls were born that I did anything alone. When my boys were 5, 7 and 8 and I left their dad, I did get to do stuff by myself but always felt guilty but they were with their dad. Now with my my girls being almost 3 and 18 months We don’t have anyone to watch them and I don’t have any real life friends to go hang out with. I don’t really even have bedtime because I work 7 to 11 mon thru friday.
What will you do for yourself this week?
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Little Miss Toddler has a rough couple of weeks a cough, fever and an ear infection. She remained the sweetest happiest little girl I know through it all. This is a little glimpse into her world. Her Friday Favorites.
This little girl adores her Barbies and thanks to Great Nana and I she has a large collection of about 25 of them. I had her pull a few of her favorites from the large pile. Her Uncle J. Bought her a small Barbie house that has a toilet and her Barbies spend a lot of time using that and jumping on the bed.
She clearly understands this week what having a favorite color means. She is choosing pink these days on a regular basis. This photo was a challenge because though she helped me pick all the pink stuff she wanted to show you. She also wanted to play with it LOL.
3. The Foot Book by Dr. Suess
When I asked her to bring me her favorite book I knew this would be the one. I know it by heart, she knows it word for word. Hands down this little girls favorite. It is one of my favorites as well.
This gets played with every single day. She immerses herself into pretend play. Interestingly she keeps the sound off. She loves making her “people” go up the stairs and talk. She uses her Little People (Fisher Price) to place with this set as well. My joy is listening in on her pretend play.
5. Being out side.
This girl is so happy that the snow is gone. We spent an hour out on the deck the other day blowing bubbles and playing. She kept coming to me telling me it was sunny out and hot. Such joy on her little face. Little Miss Toddler reminds me daily of the simple joys in life.
What are your toddler’s favorite things this week?
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It often gets asked on the Simply Moms facebook Group how do you get your children to do chores? How much do you pay them to help out? Why won’t my kids clean their room and messes?
Having personally been through many stages of parenting. I have raised that child who does not want to lift a finger, the one who cleans everything in sight because they have OCD tendencies and all those in between.
I have been successful however in getting every child in my home to help out right down to Little Miss Toddler.
Start when they are very young.
While a two-year-old will not have anywhere near the skills of your six or twelve-year-olds they can still help out with small age appropriate jobs and they should. This starts a firm foundation for life of understanding the value of being part of the family unit.
We do not pay for chores.
No-one pays mom to wash everyone’s dishes or wash clothes that everyone wore. We do not pay children for daily chores they are simply part of being a family and always have been. That has been our rule from day one. We pay with thank yous and I love yous.
There are no assigned chores.
We do things as they need to be done. Some days my son doesn’t mind dealing with the trash and other days he would rather go out and snow blow. I tend to just call on the children as things need to be done so they are not stuck doing the same thing day after day. It keeps the monotony at bay.
Together is always more fun.
If the yard needs cleaning you will find most of our family out there together cleaning. Even small things like dishes or cleaning a room are always more fun with help. Like the old saying, many hands make for light work.
Make a game of it.
Often times I will set a timer and we will race to see who can do the most. Or have a little one Play basketball with laundry that needs to be tossed in a hamper. We even incorporate learning with Little Miss Toddler such as asking her to pick up all the green blocks or pick up all the round toys.
Give the whole family a reward for those big jobs.
When the barn needing cleaning at the end of the weekend we all had a big cookout to celebrate. It’s not the same as a set allowance per chore it is more a celebration of coming together and working hard.
Hold that Wifi!
For the older children who love their computer time and such, we simply shut down the Wi-fi until things are done. Even as an adult I find it easier to get things done if I am no longer “connected”. It is a great incentive to get things done.
Keep the rules simple.
I have always taught my children you use it you put it away. You drop it you pick it up. It keeps it simple and them accountable for themselves.
Cut down on things.
As a family, we have cut way back on the clutter in our lives. It makes it far more easy to clean not only for myself but for the children to help out as well.
Have a place for everything.
If your children know where things go it will make helping with chores and be cleaning up after themselves much easier for you and them. When I need my can opener I know just where to look. Because everyone in the family knows where to put it after it has been used. A place for everything and everything in its place.
How do you get your children to help with chores?
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Recently I stood in the center of Little Miss Toddlers room shaking my head. She had just dumped a bunch of toys everywhere and ran for the hills. It was a new game she named on her very own called “Make a Mess” What I could not figure out was with so many toys why would she just keep dumping everything and taking off. Then a light came on.
There were just too many toys.
Like way too many. Some really useless, noise making, no imagination needed toys. It was time to sort, declutter and put away some of these things. So Little Miss Toddler and I worked on that over last weekend. The list I am giving you is essentially what she is left with now in her room.
Then after things were gone and what was left was put away Little Miss Toddler did something she had not done in a long time.
She sat at her table and colored, then she put a puzzle together…She played with her toys.
Less IS more.
This is our Most LOVED by Little Miss Toddler Toy List
Cars and trucks
Blocks (Wooden and plastic interlocking types)
Something to push around such as a doll stroller or a shopping cart
Kitchen set, dishes and pretend food
Crayons, coloring book and a scribble pad
Dress up clothes simple things to put on such as funny hats, sunglasses and the like.
A play set such as a doll house, garage, or castle that includes people, cars, and animals