Baby Got The Teething Blues? How To Quickly Soothe Those Little Gums.

Teething there is nothing as cute and exciting as when baby gets that first little tooth. There is also no bigger relief for a tired Mama as when that tooth finally pops out and sleep can once again reign! So many of you are asking what you can do for your little ones teething pain and answers we have just for you! Hang in there Mama, this too shall pass.

** A few mommies recommend rubbing whiskey or other alcohol products on babies gums. Please do not do this. This puts your baby at risk for all sorts of bad things. If you must use alcohol to sooth someone keep the soothing for you. ūüėČ

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Most Popular Teething product

Hand down Simply Moms mothers recommended the Razbaby RaZberry Teether¬†.¬†This pacifier¬†shaped teether seems to be a favorite of babies near and far. It provides your little one with a hands-free teether so they can do their most important work. PLAY! From what I am told by other Mamas’ like yo Razbaby RaZberry Teether for teething babiesu is that you can freeze it to cool your little one’s gums. It is 100% non-toxic silicone and textured not to mention it is freaking ADORABLE!!!

Don’t you agree?

What I personally like is the fact they are not liquid filled. I don’t know about your little one but mine always seemed to puncture¬†those liquid¬†filled teethers once they were teethers with teeth.

I certainly see why other mommies love these and their babies do as well.

 

Let’s Get Old-School

A damp clean frozen wash cloth for a teething baby

Sometimes the best solutions are those handed down through generations, you know the free and easy ones. Perhaps this is something you never even thought of.

When my now mostly grown children and Little Miss were the teething age we would take a new clean wash cloth, wet it and squeeze it out and pop it in the freezer for 15 minutes or so.

Once frozen it was handed off to the little one to chew and suck on.

Personally, I think it worked swimmingly well. It kept their interest for a long while and the coolness was soothing to their sore gums.

One mommy mentioned soaking the cloth in juice and wringing it out and freezing it. I have never tried it but if you do tell me how it works.

Look Why Not Just Chill?

Mesh net feeders for teething babies just add cool or frozen fruits or veggies.

No¬†silly I didn’t mean you chill out I mean chill those gums right off THEN you can chill,¬†sound¬†like a deal?

How about a breast milk or formula popsicle?

 

Cold and tasty um for them ha ha.Or if your days with your little are more adventurous some frozen fruit puree.There are so many awesome popsicle molds for making popsicles at home my favorite ones for babies are the new silicone popsicle  molds that do not have a stick (Think freeze pop) you can check them out >> here << 

Or of the idea¬†of popsicles doesn’t work for you.¬†You can add frozen fruits or ice cubes to a mesh feeder. Little Miss loved hers with frozen banana chunks in it. There are so many possibilities here, frozen blue berries, strawberries, peaches, nice cold apple slices just to name a few. What would you add?

Teething Biscuit Any One?

I confess I always used these with my babies. They LOVED them. Here is another confession. I sat there and watched them munch on them because I was well aware of the fact pieces can, would and did break off and it poses a choking hazard. This is not something you hand to a baby and walk away they need to be supervised closely with these. However, with that supervision, they are generally a big hit and well, a big old mess but isn’t that half the fun?

The Teether You Always Have Right At The Tip Of Your Fingers.

A nice clean mommy or daddy finger can make for a wonderful teether. Just apply light pressure to their gums and it helps relieve of some of the pain.  I am pretty sure it does not get any more simple, or cheap but people have done it for generations and it does in deed help.

Amber Necklaces Do They Work? Are They Safe?

Some of you mommies swear by these. Others say they didn’t see any difference at all. The medical field does not advocate their use due to choking and strangulation risks. The is also strong doubt in the medical field that they work. ¬†I personally have not used one. So I can’t weigh in with my opinions.

A Word On Orajel and Infant Pain Relievers

This article was written with the idea in mind of trying to avoiding the medicated route of caring for a teething baby.

However, we realize as a mom you will make the ultimate choices for your own babies comfort.

It has been mentioned recently that an ingredient in Baby Orajel, ¬†Benzocaine could possibly be very unsafe for babies. The FDA states “the use of benzocaine gels and liquids for mouth and gum pain can lead to a rare but serious‚ÄĒand sometimes fatal‚ÄĒcondition called methemoglobinemia” Though there is ¬†Baby Orajel Natual that does not contain this ingredient or alcohol, it also left out any food dyes. Making it a much safer alternative.

It is my suggestion for infant pain relievers that you speak to your child’s pediatrician about proper dosage and use.

 

How did you deal with teething? We would love to hear your comments, questions, and ideas below!

 

 

3 Heart-Warming Books Your Preschooler Will Beg You To Read

Ladies let me tell you. I have been raising children for the better part of 27 years. Reading to them has always been one of my very favorite parts of the day. However, I will say when a new children’s book rolls out I am super excited. I am possibly even more excited than my kids because if I have to read The Foot Book one more time… You know what I am talking about, don’t you? ¬†So let’s just say I am always looking for something new and exciting for me…err I mean them to read.

So here is my newest list of TOP 3 Favorite Children’s Books for the Preschool Crowd!

 

1- My Big Tree

When Maria came to me and offered me the opportunity to read her children’s¬†book I was excited! Guess what! I was even more excited when I down loaded the book and opened it up. Oh, my, gosh! I was greeted¬†with simple, soft, and sweet images of animals. ¬†I knew right away that when Little Miss woke up and we could cuddle up for a story she would, in fact, love this.

My Big Tree -Childrens Book

Little Miss and I read this and I found, even more, to love about this book. It touches on colors, counting, sharing, needing space and also the need to be close to those you care about.

Some of the current things in her preschool homeschooling that we are working on.

As a three she is unaware of others feeling the need for space and this was a wonderful way of opening up that conversation with her as well as the need to be near those we love and enjoy being with. We also talked about sharing and why we should do so.

The book offers a simple story of one little bird finding a perfect tree to nest in while others find it just as wonderful for their needs. He finds it crowded and nests in another not so perfect tree. He realizes that perhaps the other tree was perfect.

I have to say, Maria’s writing and the photos in the book are a perfect night time or anytime story for the 2-4-year-old crowd. Little Miss and I both give it TWO big thumbs up!

 

2- Mine!

I don’t know about you and your little one but Little Miss is going through a hardcore not wanting to share phase. Good lord above PLEASE let it just be a phase. A very short one at that.

This book touches on the idea of why the main character¬†Kitty does not want to share. She was having fun playing. On her own and in her¬†own way. ¬†Then her friend arrives and wants to add her special flair on Kitty’s play time. ¬†As you can guess Kitty wants no part of her friend’s big ideas. Everything is MINE and her way! (Sounds familiar doesn’t it Moms?)

Mine! - Childrens Book

Little  Miss related to this book right away.  The bright colorful pages, the fun ideas that Kitty and her friend have and that dreaded sharing issue.

It is not only a cute colorful read with two sassy full of ideas little girls it is a wonderful teaching tool for sharing and kindness.

Little Miss and I also give this book two thumbs up and six giggles.

 

3- The Run Away Bunny

As a child, this was my favorite book. I read it to my kids and now I read it to Little Miss.I am sure you have heard of it or even read it as it is a children’s classic. With its soft sweet dream like pictures, it makes a wonderful bedtime read with the theme no matter what I will always love you.
The Runaway Bunny -Childrens BookHave you forgotten this one? Be sure to pick up a copy for your little one’s book collection.

Little Miss says this book gets two thumbs up as well!

 

What is your child’s current favorite book? How about yours? And let’s be honest what one can you no longer stand?

 

 

5 Exclusive Survival Tips From A Stay At Home Mom

So you’re a stay at home mom?

Girl, let me tell you it’s been a drink twelve cups of coffee, pop in some ear plugs before my ear drums explode, hide the dog while his fur is still white and he currently still has fur, hide in the closet with a spoon and jar of crunchy¬†peanut butter, pull out my hair and poke my eye balls with forks dipped in lemon juice for fun sort of day. It has been a day! ¬†In fact, it’s been many days.

Search out your KINDRED SPIRITS find your TRIBE

Not that I expect rainbows, glitter and dancing bears but two minutes to pee and not to break my neck on strategically placed logos, ¬†Hot wheels, and little pointy Barbie shoes would be so awesome. Welcome to life as a stay at home mom. I promise you, you will survive and this all to shall pass…Then and only then will you miss it so.

Let me guess, you’re here for those tips. Tips, my friend I have five, in fact, I live by.

1- Go play! Yes, you too Mom. Go Play!

All too often we get feeling over whelmed and we want to shoo the kids off to some activity to get them untangled from our hair. I mean, after all, Moms need Mom time. How many times have you yelled or demanded they go watch TV, go out side or go play with the million toys sitting collecting mountains of dust?

What IF you go play with them? Get out side and kick a ball HARD, show them how to jump rope, double dutch, or run a race. How about you take those legos and build a house or a city? What if you all cuddle up on the couch and read a book or watch an old movie like The Wilderness Family or Honey I Shrunk The Kids (I just so dated my self here.)

Girl, do you see my point here? Sometimes those crazy moments are simply they want your attention. Your true, unbusy undivided attention. It’s a perk of being at home.

2-  Down Time Sleep, Read, Play and STAY

What if I told you that your kids deserve down time and need it just as much as you do. It is sort of like eating healthy food they may not always like it but it is good for them. What if for one hour out of the day there was peace on earth and all that good stuff you know like not a creature was stirring not even a mouse and if he is stirring he BEST be stirring some quiet!

So here is the scoop, for an hour, every day at about the same time the littles nap. The bigger kiddos get the choice to read, play alone very quietly or stare up at the ceiling listening to the clock tick for sixty minutes but they must stay in their room or where you choose for them to go spend this wonderful hour of relaxation. They will rest & recharge and you get to pee, maybe a shower, maybe even make a call with out telling a stranger at the power company you “love them and goodbye” because the little is howling at your feet Yeah that really happened. Wouldn’t that be so amazing? ¬†Start teaching them now, today. They need it as do you.

 Real tips you can actually use to get through some of your hardest most trying stay at home days, weeks and months. www.simplymoms.net

3- Be The CEO Mom the BOSS Mom!

So you’re just a stay-at-home-mom huh? Just a frumpy run down Mama who is running her children around and throwing chicken nuggets on the table and sweeping the same crumbs up over and over in a giant circle. Sounds like a pretty crummy job no wonder you are here!Lady, you are doing this all wrong. Brush

Lady, you are doing this all wrong. Brush your hair, get dressed, buy a planner schedule your days and how you clean, plan those meals, budget, write lists, plan DIY projects, assign those kids some jobs, Create a freaking holiday if you like! Be the boss of your home. Run it like a well-oiled machine. You got this Mama! You are a STAY AT HOME MOM BOSS!

Brush your hair, get dressed, buy a planner schedule your days and how you clean, plan those meals, budget, write lists, plan DIY projects, assign those kids some jobs and create a freaking holiday if you like! Be the boss of your home. Run it like a well-oiled machine. You got this Mama! You are a STAY AT HOME MOM BOSS!

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4- Search out your KINDRED SPIRITS find your TRIBE

That’s right. Mama, go find some¬†other stay at home Mama’s and you form bonds with them. So you can plan park days and trade off baby sitting.

Do Daddy and the kids a big favor and plan nights just for daddy and the kids have to have bonding time cause they love that stuff.

You go out with your girls and have your self a time. Even if it is just sitting in that coffee shop drinking those real fancy special drinks that are Instagram¬†( <– Shameless Plug ) worthy and you get to talk about how your little girl can say the alphabet, while standing on her head, with one eye closed, while balancing a ball on her ballet slippers. They won’t always be listening but they will pretend to listen to you. Your kids don’t even do you that favor.

The point is to get some friends, do some friends stuff it will fill your heart extra joy, laughter, adult conversation, and happiness.

5- Love is PATIENT, Love Is KIND love is FORGIVING

Oh no Mama, I wasn’t talking about the kids you have that down pat! I was talking about you. Be patient with yourself, give your self some grace. Give yourself a ton understanding.

Be oh so kind to your self. Treat your self to something nice and unneeded just because you deserve it. Be your very best friend.

We all have those days where we yell, where everything we did with good intentions failed. Be forgiving of your self. We learn from our biggest flops and failures. Mama’s don’t get manuals. You are doing great!

 

The Ultimate Checklist of Things You Need To Homeschool Your Preschooler

Hey, Moms!¬†I am in the midst of finishing up my homeschool planning for this year. I have a preschooler and a high schooler this year. So exciting! In all this hustle and bustle to finish up my plans, I have been working on a list of things I have, will need and would like for Little Miss’s Little Preschool year. So here it is in all its glory. Before I forget Mama, enjoy your preschool homeschooling year!

This is my personal list some of these things are wishes and I will thrift shop for them. Nothing on this list is set in stone it is a nice starting point/ wish list. Many of these things will carry right over into Kindergarten and first grade as well.

I listed a few books that are the very minimum. Reading is so important to build a library of your own and if you have access utilize your local library.


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Arts & Craft Supplies

  • Water paints
  • Tempra paints
  • Finger paints
  • Finger painting paper
  • Crayons
  • Markers
  • Colored pencils
  • Cray-pas
  • Chalk
  • Paint brushes
  • Paint pallet
  • Glue
  • Tape
  • Construction paper
  • Safty scissors
  • Tissue paper
  • Pipe cleaners
  • Pom poms
  • Googly eyes
  • Doodle Pad
  • Air dry Clay
  • Glitter
  • Glitter Glue
  • Old magazines for collages
  • Cotton balls
  • Craft sticks
  • Ribbons and string
  • Dot-a-dots
  • Craft jewels
  • Beads
  • Coloring books or pages
  • Heavy paper that will take wet paints
  • Easel
  • Colored sand
  • Streamers
  • Felt and foam

The Ultimate Checklist of Things You Need To Homeschool Your Preschooler www.simplymoms.net

 

Reading & Writing

  • Classic collection of fairy tales
  • Picture dictionary
  • Books about animals, neighborhoods, plants, and everyday things.
  • A collection of Dr. Suess books
  • Preschool Lined paper
  • Ticonderoga No. 2 Pencils¬†(You will not be disappointed with this specific brand.)

  • Colored Pens
  • Preschool work books for reading and writing
  • White board and dry erase¬†markers
  • Library Card

Math

  • Manipulatives for counting, adding and subtracting
  • Ice cube tray for sorting
  • Large bead and string set for making patterns
  • Puzzles
  • Measuring cups
  • Ruler
  • Dice
  • Cards with Numbers on them
  • Clothes Pins for clipping on the correct about to the number cards and other activities
  • Beans, large pasta, M&M or other candies for counting and sorting

 

Large Motor Skills

  • Tricycle or small bike
  • Swing ¬†slide and climbing equipment¬†or access¬†to a play ground
  • Ball
  • Jump rope
  • Hula hoop
  • Side walk chalk for creating hop scotch and other ¬†things
  • Small trampoline
  • Items to create an indoor or outdoor¬†obstacle course (Old tires, buckets, wide boards, or pillows, cushions, small items to walk around.)
  • Small yard rake, and shovel
  • Water table, with cups to pour.
  • Sand Box, shovels, and buckets

Fine Motor Skills

  • Play doh
  • Writing tools mentioned above
  • Smaller beads and string
  • Lacing cards
  • Medium and smaller lego Bricks
  • Plastic eggs to open and close
  • Broken crayons to color with. (Weird you say? Yes, but it develops even better fine motor skills in small children)

Creative and Pretend Play

  • Dress up clothes
  • Kitchen set with dishes and food
  • Baby dolls
  • Envelopes, “stamps” a pretend mail box
  • Cars and trucks
  • Play sets with people and animals such as a barn or house
  • Shopping cart
  • Cash register
  • Small broom, dust pan, and vacuum
  • Anything that pertains to a parent or relatives job (Brief case, safety¬†vest, and hard hat, police uniform)
Do you love the list? Show the love with other homeschooling Moms of preschoolers and share, pin or tweet!

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From An Old, New Mom’s Mouth: These Are the Products You Need

At 25 years old, I became Mama. And then again at 26 years old. For fifteen years I heard, ‚ÄúWow! Your kids are so close in age.‚ÄĚ Until I had my next child at age 39+ and now I hear, ‚ÄúWow! Your kids are so far apart in age.‚ÄĚ And both exclamations are on point.

I loved being Mama at age 25 and I love it even more now, with two teens and a baby. But, GEEZ, have things changed. I could go on for pages about the ways that things have changed, but I promised my friend, Jenn, that I would talk about how the products have changed. At the risk of sounding old, there are so many more products available for new moms now that make things so much easier. If you have a baby shower coming up, pay attention. Any of these 5 products will be a big hit.


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My Top 5 Favorite ‚ÄúNew Mom‚ÄĚ Must-Have Products

 

5 Crowd Pleasing baby Shower Gift Ideas

1. Net Teethers

Teething is the worst. And teething rings were not cutting it for my little one. With my older two, I remember putting an ice cube in a ziplock bag and letting my babies bite on it. The bag would rip, I would have to take it away and the screaming would resume.

But now, there are Net Teethers! When I found out about these, I realized how much things had changed in 15 years, since my older kids were babies. These are brilliant.

Simply put an ice cube, frozen fruit, or even froze breast milk in the net, latch it closed, and your baby will love the taste and the feeling on his sore little gums. I bought two sets, one for the diaper bag and one for home. This is a must-have baby essential and a great, affordable baby shower gift.

2. Boppy Covers

When I became a Mama 16 years ago, one of my favorite gifts was a Boppy. It is perfect for nursing, propping your baby, and for early tummy time. But, back then, they did not have removable covers and were very awkward to clean. I was overjoyed to learn that Boppy slipcovers are now a thing, and come in so many adorable patterns.

Breast milk squirts on the Boppy? No problem…simply remove the slipcover and change it with another one. Toss the gross one in the washer. So stinking easy now!

3. Side Sleeping Crib

I am a big fan of co-sleeping. I do not want to get out of bed every time my little angel wants to nurse during the night. And, I love to watch him sleep. I have heard the cautionary warnings about co-sleeping. And, although I co-slept with both of my older kids, I totally get that there are risks. When I found this side sleeping crib I fell completely in love. The side sleeping crib allows me to cuddle all night and be safe!

4. Baby Sling

The week after I delivered my new baby, my oldest had a high school football game. I have never missed one of his games and I didn‚Äôt plan on ever missing a game. Thank heavens for the baby sling. At least five times I heard, ‚ÄúOh my goodness, is there a baby in their?‚ÄĚ And, there was a baby in there. My newborn fit so comfortably down into the sling with nothing by his tiny nose sticking out.

The baby sling is the perfect solution to staying active while having your baby snuggled up closely to you. It also comes in so many cute colors and patterns and makes the perfect baby shower gift.

5. Echo Dot

I know you are probably thinking, ‚ÄúWhat does an Echo Dot have to do with baby stuff?‚ÄĚ But, just hear me out.

My husband bought me an Echo Dot one month after our son was born. He thought it would be a great way for me to keep track of things ‚Äúhands free‚ÄĚ while I tended to our baby and tried to work a few hours a day. At first, I gave him a side eye, but he was so right.

I use the Echo Dot in the following fun ways:

  • Alexa, play baby lullabys.
  • Alexa, play spa music.
  • Alexa, add baby wipes to my shopping list.
  • Alexa, what is a good food for a 4 month old?
  • Alexa, I have potatoes, pasta sauce, white fish, and cheese. What can I make with these ingredients? (By the way, she gave me the tastiest recipe.)
  • Alexa, do babies get laryngitis? (They do, by the way.)

The list goes on and on. This was a big score for my husband and a great idea for all new moms.

I would love to learn about your favorite Mama products. Leave your faves in the comments!


Self employed for over a decade, Julie Wilson is the mother of two teens and a baby. She owns multiple businesses and has worked from home for over a decade. Her blog, www.allaboutselfemployment.com is designed to help anyone with a yearning to ditch their 9 to 5 escape to live a life of freedom. Email her at Julie@allaboutselfemployment.com.

5 Bedtime Routine Tricks for Toddlers That actually Work

Tips for getting your toddler go to bed and stay in bed. Five simple things you can start doing tonight. To create a simple bedtime routine and a peaceful sleeping environment so everyone can start sleeping again.

Your eyes are drooping to your knees but your toddler is running around jumping from couch to couch claiming war on bed time. Are you tired of bed time battles only to end up tip toeing around in the wee early hours of the morning because your toddler finally went to bed and you must have some sleep before they come running and screaming into your bed only to spend the rest of your sleepless night feeling like you spent the night fighting off  fifteen caffeinated ninjas?

 

Create a bedtime routine you can honestly live with.

bath before bedtime

Don’t start out with a six-hour routine that involves reading a million books, fifty stuffed animals arranged in alphabetical order from left to right along juniors foot board and 95 glasses of water and just 4,598 more questions. Keep it simple and real. Keep it the same every night. Bath, Jammies, teeth, book, kiss, hug, tuck, and lights out. It is easy and realistic to do for many years to come.

Consider a noise machine

I myself hate sleeping in a silent room because then every little noise jars me awake. Children are often the same. White noise is a wonderful tool to drown out nightly household noise as life continues after their bedtime.

What is their best sleeping temperature?

Like adults, children sleep better in certain temperatures. Some will want to be warmer and others on the cooler side. The trick is to figure that out with a younger child. Little Miss for one likes to be covered well but the room to be cooler because she gets too hot with her comforter on.

Stop screen time about an hour before bed.

Limit blue screens such as tablets, computers and TV to day use only as these screens will interrupt sleep patterns.
Giga limits my tablet time and we never use it before bed. She says the blue lights will make it so I am not sleepy. So I use it during the day.

 

According to the National Sleep Foundation, blue screens tell the brain it is time to be awake and alert and the body will not produce enough melatonin. Melatonin is a hormone that tells the body it is sleepy. So it is advised to shut those screens down and maybe opt for a bit of classical music or reading instead.

Be Consistent and Firm.

baby sleeping

If they come out after being put to bed gently walk them back, place them in bed with out any fan fair and simply keep doing it. Be matter of fact about it. It may take many times, it may even take some tears (Them and you) But in the end, everyone should be sleeping far more soundly. Your bedtime routine if used consistently will become second nature if you stay firm on what bedtime means.

You may be interested in a recent post about choosing your toddlers first bed. [Read]

 

Cites :

Nation Sleep Foundation on Blue Lights and Kids

Bath and sleeping photos from pixabay.com

Love Jennifer

Toddler Bed is it Worth It?

Congratulations! Your little one is making the move from the crib into his or her big bed. Now the dilemma is should it be a twin or toddler bed? Both have pros and cons.

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Pros of a Toddler Bed

Sleeping Toddler

1- The have rails or higher sides built into prevent falls.

2- They are made lower to the floor so a child can get in and out of bed easier.

3- They use the crib mattress you already have.

4- They use the bedding you already have as well.

5- The do not take up a lot of space.

6- Toddler Beds can be very low-cost to get into.

7- The size of the bed is less overwhelming for a small child.

8- There are so many cute toddler bed designs to choose from.

Congratulations! Your little one is making the move from the crib into his or her big bed. Now the dilemma is should it be a twin or toddler bed? Both have pros and cons.

Cons of a Toddler Bed

1- There is not a lot of room for your toddler to move around so if they are a restless sleeper they will be banging into the rails.

2- Generally you will only get a year or two out of them so it is another temporary piece of furniture.

3- There is no room for an adult to lay on the bed with the toddler to read books, cuddle and so forth.

4- Most will not hold up to larger siblings sitting on them there are weight limits on most.

5-  Over the long haul you will have spent more money.

 

Our Experience

Twin Vs. Toddler Bed

For us, we did go to a toddler bed. Little Miss was obsessed with her Pop-Pops car and he found a car bed for her at a good price. That was a year ago when she was almost two. She is a very tall girl and an extremely restless sleeper. Her arms and legs would bang into the sides of the bed and wake her.

So we recently moved her into a twin.  I fully believe it would have been a better choice right from the start

For those worried about the height of a twin bed, you could start with just the mattress and box spring and later on add the frame.  Bedrails are a simple addition to prevent a small child from accidentally rolling out of bed.

While the toddler bed was a fun addition to her room she sleeps far better in her twin bed now.

If you enjoyed this post about raising toddlers maybe you will like our potty training post as well.

 

What are your thoughts on Toddler Bed Vs. Twin Beds for toddlers?

 

 

Why Children Should Do Chores

This guest post was written and submitted by  Tilly Sanders .

Children and chores - time to clean up

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Not many children like cleaning and this is not surprising. Kids adore playing and if we lose them of sight for just a couple of minutes, they will make a real mess in our home. We can’t expect from our kids to clean like we do but we can at least encourage them to help us clean. This may not be as easy as it sounds but if you are patient and persistent enough, you can build the habit of cleaning in your child.

Here are some of the most important reasons why you should involve your kids in the process of cleaning.

  1. They help you with the household chores

Children usually make a big mess when they are playing and never put the toys back in their rightful place. They also don’t put the dishes near the sink, neither the dirty clothes in the laundry basket. However, children need to learn that like everybody else in the family, they also need to help with the cleaning, instead of waiting for somebody else to take care of everything.

 

  1. They become more responsible

If your children help you with the cleaning, they will learn to take responsibilities and discover that it is not only playing that they need to be engaged in. This unpleasant activity will help them become reliable grown-ups.

 

  1. They learn what is hard work

Cleaning is a great way for children to learn the importance of hard work. The knowledge that they need to put efforts for everything in life will help them achieve their goals easily.

 

  1. They will develop important skills that can be applied later in life

Stimulate your kids to help you with the house work because they will acquire good qualities and later when they are independent, they will be able to deal with everything themselves and won’t depend on other people.

 

  1. They learn to appreciate things

When children clean they actually see how much efforts it costs you to ensure clean and healthy atmosphere for them in your home. Knowing that they are those who will clean later, they won’t walk with dirty feet inside anymore and will keep everything clean.

 

  1. You will spend more time together

If it was possible, kids would spend every minute with their parents. If you are working too much and often arrive home when your children are already sleeping, cleaning may be a good way to spend more time together. Just present it as a pleasant game and don’t concentrate on results too much. This is how your children won’t accept cleaning as an unpleasant duty.

 

  1. They will build hygiene and healthy habits

Teach your children that they need to help you create clean and sanitized atmosphere in your home and one day when they are living in their own house, they will know how to maintain it clean. It gives a great feeling to be an example for your children.
There are many reasons why your kids should help you clean. However, all children are different. Some of them have no problems with helping with the house work, while others may not want to contribute to it at all. Fortunately, children are easily manipulated and if they have a good stimulation, they will always help you clean. Try different methods and choose what works best for your family. Keep in mind that your children are not able to clean your home the way you do and lower your expectations. Just involve your children in the household work and sooner or later they will get used to being part of the cleaning crew.


Bio:  Tilly Sanders is an owner of a small cleaning company named  Sparkling Cleaners London based in London, United Kingdom. She has one lovely child that she loves more than everything In her free time she likes to write articles related to cleaning, organizing, and eco.

Bipolar How I Cope with having Loved Ones With Mental Illness

I am close to three people who have Bipolar. I will not disclose who they are for privacy reasons but, let’s just say I know very well what it means to love someone with bipolar.

Bipolar is like being on a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you can predict drop offs and others you just have to hang on because the next turn sends you into an unexpected spiral. Sometimes you are laughing and throwing your hands in the air and then other times you are clinging, simply holding on for dear life screaming it the top of your lungs.

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I have:

  • ¬†watched as someone I loved made terrible choices.
  • seen them yell over nothing or laugh uncontrollably at nothing.
  • ¬†watched them ruin their very important relationships.
  • ¬†sadly watched them spend money they never really had to spend.
  • experienced them loving with all that they had.
  • had the pleasure of seeing them so proud of successes.
  • watched rage over the slightest failure.
  • stood by as a mood shifted so extremely they make me feel like I was spinning.
  • heard things I wish I could un-hear.
  • witnessed them create things so beautifully that you know their¬†soul is so pure.
  • ¬†observed them destroy close to everything they owned.
  • been there in the happiest of times at their¬†best.
  • celebrated them dancing like no one is watching even though everyone was.
  • loved them. Because we are all deserving of love.
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According to the source, Brain & Behavior Research Foundation, “More than 5.7 million American adults or 2.6 percent of the population age 18 or older in any given year have bipolar disorder.”

It’s my personal thoughts that that number may be even higher as many do not ever seek help and are not diagnosed. My guess is if you found this you know someone who has bipolar or even may have it yourself.

Over the years living with people who have bipolar and having them in my life I have come up with things I do when it comes to my relationships with these people whom I love so dearly.

You must accept the fact bipolar is a part of their life but it does not completely define who they are.

People who have bipolar have personalities, hopes, dreams, and aspirations just like anyone else. They are not their illness they have an illness.

Bipolar is not an excuse for everything.

While bipolar does affect one’s choices you can not just use it as a way to brush off bad behavior. There was an incident¬†where a bipolar child broke something that did not belong to them on purpose. It was very clear that they did it with mean intent and they were making clear choices. My¬†first reaction was to brush it off as oh this happens a lot¬†the illness causes them to act this way. No, that is not how life works. Life does not care if you have bipolar, people out there still expect basic respect. The law will also not care if you child grows up and blames bad choices on his or her mental health.We must teach them that early. Interestingly when the child was not expected to act that way and received¬†proper loving discipline. They started working towards better behavior.

Know what their triggers are.

In my experience, both children and adults have triggers that can cause a fast shift in their mood.By no means am I saying you should tip toe around them. We all know some things simply can not be avoided. However, it if is something that does not need to be done or said it is often best just to avoid it. This cut down on so many manic episodes for us.

Appointments, medications and seeking help.

One person in particular that I am close with needed to be often reminded that their mental health appointments and their medications were so very important. Yes, everyone case is different but for us, the medications and therapy would start helping some and their response was to stop the medications because they felt” fine”. At the very least I was able to break that cycle sometimes. If a person you love is threatening to harm themselves or someone else please make a phone call to get them help right away. Please, never brush it off. Ever.

Set clear boundaries for yourself.

There are certain things I will not put up with. I won’t bend or break on them. It does not matter if the person suffers from mental health issues or they do not. My lines in the sand are there. If they are crossed there are consequences. For example, should I have a friend with bipolar (or not ) and they were to intentionally physically harm me or a child of mine. The friendship would end. That is one of my boundaries.

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Give yourself a break.

Go grab a coffee with friends, go for a walk, find a hobby you love especially when the person you love is having a manic episode. Make sure they are safe and take that time for you. Being around someone who is manic is emotionally and physically exhausting. There is nothing wrong with needing time away, in fact, it is a very healthy habit to form.

Be an advocate

If the person you love is a child or an adult has difficulty expressing themselves to their doctor, schools, family please make sure they get heard. If it is a child and a doctor will not listen perhaps finding a new practice. So many times people with bipolar or parents of children with bipolar get brushed off by the medical profession when they voice their concerns. I have stood up many times as a voice to be heard and it has ended a lot of heartache and frustration.

Know what comforts them.

For some people it is a favorite blanket wrapped snugly around them, maybe for someone else, it is just a change of scenery, a hug or even to just be left alone. Comfort and familiarness are often very needed by someone who is manic, or depressed.

Remember no one chooses to be mentally ill.

Love and compassion go a long way they did not ask for this, cause it or choose it. While someone with bipolar disorder can become extremely frustrating or worrisome try not to be angry with them, don’t beg them to change or demand they stop being this way. This is not a choice, it simply is.

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I am by no means an expert

I am simply put a person who loves and is loved by people that have bipolar disorder. For more information, you can check out the following resources. What I have written are things I have done over the years that have worked for me personally.

National Institutes of Health – Bipolar Disorder

WebMD – Bipolar Disorder Health Center

If you or someone you love is threatening to harm them self please do not just brush it off please get help.
Call 1-800-273-8255
Available 24 hours every day 24/7

My personal thoughts.

Bipolar is not all negative. Some of the most creative, smart, energetic, full of life, fun people I know are bipolar. They are wonderful people that have a mental health disorder. The stigma placed on people with mental health is very disheartening. I have been through years of ups and downs with people who I love. I have stood up for them when they could not and you know what… they have done the same for me. At the end of the day, we are all simply human… please embrace one another through the perfection and the imperfections. #Love #Kindness #Compassion

Describing bipolar disorder quote.

 

 

Love Jennifer

 

Why We Are Not Potty Training Now Or Ever

When are you going to potty train.¬†Is she potty trained yet? She’s two…How did potty training go?

Hmmm, let’s see. We are not potty training and we¬†do not plan to ever. I do not want to be trained to know when she might need to pee. I don’t want to watch for her cues. Honestly, I don’t want to steam clean a million and one little accidents they, by the way, would be zero her fault. Furthermore I never for a moment want to make her feel like she can’t do something that she has no control over.

Why we do not potty train www.simplymoms.net

So She Is Going To Be In Diapers Forever?

Now I never said that she would not learn to use the toilet. She has been learning since she could walk. She comes in the bathroom with me. We talk about how someday when she is bigger and ready she will also be using the big toilet. We discuss¬†how much toilet paper is ok to use. We learn to wash our hands and dry them. What we don’t do is choose a day and say ok we are potty training.

Why? Because her body and mind need to be ready.

I know, I know after all these diaper¬†changes YOU are ready. We all are. Children learn to potty at all different¬†ages some things need to happen before they can use the potty. Before you can say yes, they are out of diapers. Please, don’t worry they won’t¬†be going to high school with a pack of diapers.

Signs of Readiness 

Telling you they have just peed. (Good)

Telling you they need to pee. (Even better)

Going longer periods with a dry diaper. (Good)

Waking up dry more often. (Better)

Wanting a wet or soiled diaper off right away.

Potty training and the lies you have been told! Come check out tips and truths from a mom of eight. www.simplymoms.net

Skills Needed

Can walk, sit, and stand with no help.

Can follow simple instructions.

Can pull pants up and down.

Can communicate needs and wants.

Has a desire to use the potty like others.

Knows about body functions and has words for them such as poop and pee.

How to not stress over your child going potty. www.simplymoms.net

How We Potty Learn

When they hit most readiness milestones you move from just modeling to talking about how they will someday use the big potty like you.

You can talk about handwashing, bottom wiping, and being clean and dry.

Definitely, show how proud you are for small things such as toilet flushing or sitting on the potty even if nothing happens.

Celebrate each small success until it becomes routine then we tone it down and wait for them to take the next step. Such as from just sitting on the potty to peeing, to pooping and to not wanting diapers)

Celebrating for us is high fives, hugs, and exclamations¬†of “Oh wow you are so good at this!”

We do not take diapers away. We comment about how we wear underwear and how good it feels not need a diaper. When they don’t want them we stop offering and if they want them that’s ok too. Moving to pull ups at this in between stage is not a horrible idea. Diapers made these days also refasten well.

Accidents can and do happen. We clean it up with a smile and say oh well next time you will make it.  Please do not yell and scream.

Please do not yell, scream, hound or nag. This is about giving skills and encouraging.

We talk about when there are no more accidents we will get big girl or boy undies.

The end result will be a child who is in charge of using the potty on their own.

Side Note

**While we start modeling at a young age it is not until the signs of readiness start to appear that we expect any success. When it has happened for us it seems like it happened in a matter of days.  Modeling is simply to accustom a very young toddler to what others around them are doing. Children soak up knowledge and want to please the adults in their life. If it is not a power struggle it never will be.

 

We do not potty train. We potty learn. Come see why. www.simplymoms.net

I have done this with my last four children and it worked like a charm. We don’t bribe, yell, hit, demand. This is no different than learning to eat, walk or speak. It is a milestone that their body needs to be ready for. Many children do not even develop the muscle control needed until they reach about 18 – 30 months to use the bathroom under their own control. So you would in fact simply be training yourself to watch for cues and make a mad¬†dash with a toddler who might make it, might not or really just won’t go. My method is about readiness, giving them a skill set and encouragement. ¬†Will you give it a go?

Love Jennifer

 


Updated to include:

I have to apologize because I realized after someone commented that I had, in fact, looked something up last night and I forgot to cite where I found that information.

—> ¬†“Many children do not even develop the muscle control needed until they reach about 18 – 30 months to use the bathroom under their own control.”

The ages of a child holding their bladder I did have to look up and they were found at www.mom.me

Under the article “At What Age Do Kids Gain Control of Their Bladder?”