Blue Sky Tag Challange

I was nominated  by Anna Kat over at her blog: Victoria Lee Home
I urge you to stop by her beautiful blog. It will not disappoint.
Blue Sky Tag Challenge
1.  When did you realize you had talent as a writer?
    I have a hard time calling it talent. I simply enjoy it. It’s been a hard road for me to put myself out there and really put some effort into blogging because I know I need to gain better skills. With that said I feel I do have something to offer other regardless.
2.  If you weren’t working as a blogger/writer, what career would you have?
I always thought I would want to be a teacher. Now I am thinking it would be something more related to web design or writing.
3.  Who inspires you the most?
Growing up I never really had the best role models. However, on the internet, I have met some amazing woman. They inspire me daily to be a better mom/grandma, writer, friend, wife, and homemaker.
4.  What is the favorite city you have traveled to?
Sadly we do not really travel but my favorite city is Apache Junction, AZ. I love being down in the valley…the sun, all the pools, the flatness, a number of things to do during any given season. I lived there for almost four years as a teen and still miss it to this day.
5.  What are your goals for 2018?
To take a writing class. To increase the following on my blog. Maybe, just maybe to make a small income from my blog. I love blogging just to blog but would also very much love to help support my family doing something I love from home.
6.  What is your hope for your readers?
That they find something they love here and they will return. That they will enjoy getting to know me and my family. Most of all though that they find something each day that makes them smile.
7.  If you could meet one blogger, who would it be?
Honestly, I could not pick just one. Thelma from Adventures as aProverbs 31 Mommy, Dana from  Luv’n Lambert Life, and Michelle from High Heels and Homework these three because they have been such a huge influence on my blogging. Oh my, gosh though there really is such a long list of women who I adore and would just love to meet.
8.  If a movie was made about your life, who would be cast to play you?
 Roseanne Barr, she is witty, funny with a nice slice of sarcastic, sort of like me.Her role on Roseanne was so much like me it’s scary.
9.  What other creative talent do you have?
I love to sew when I have the time or Little Miss is not “helping” I can also bake some pretty mean loaves of homemade bread.
10.  Name one affirmation you recite to yourself daily?
Lately, with a toddler in tow, it is “This too shall pass.” She is in the get into everything and tantrum phase. It will pass…Right? 😉
11.  If you could eliminate one disease, which would it be?
Cancer, all cancer. My bonus dad has bone cancer. It is a hard thing to watch someone you love suffer and to be told there is no cure. **As a side note even though he is terminal at this point he has stunned his team of doctors and is doing exceptionally well. He is one hell of a fighter**
 
Below in no special order are my 11 choices.
5) Stephanie | Diary of a Debutante
6) Emily | Emulating Emily
7) Riddhi | Wife of an Engineer
Unfortunately, I was unable to come up with 11 blogs. However, if you would like to take part contact me and I would be glad to review your blog and possibly add it to the list.
 Bloggers, here are the rules for participating in the challenge:
1.Start by thanking the person who nominated you and adding a link to their blog.
2.Answer the 11 questions I give you at the end of this post.
3.Nominate 11 other bloggers whose blog you think is amazing.
4.Give them 11 questions of your choice.
Here is your list of questions from me:
  1. What is one aspect of blogging that you love?
  2. Who is a blogger do you most closely relate to and why?
  3. What is your biggest challenge when it comes to blogging?
  4. What is a struggle or challenge you have overcome in life?
  5. What most recently made you laugh?
  6. What is something you would love to learn to do?
  7. What is something you have learned from another blog?
  8. If you have a day all to yourself to do anything you like what are you doing?
  9. Where is a place you would love to visit and why?
  10. When it comes to blogging are you a share it all sort of person, very private or someplace in the middle?
  11. What are some of your lesser-known talents?
 Thank you so much to all you readers who take a moment to drop a comment it makes doing this blog so much fun. I appreciate you all more than you could imagine.
Love Jennifer

Bipolar How I Cope with having Loved Ones With Mental Illness

I am close to three people who have Bipolar. I will not disclose who they are for privacy reasons but, let’s just say I know very well what it means to love someone with bipolar.

Bipolar is like being on a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you can predict drop offs and others you just have to hang on because the next turn sends you into an unexpected spiral. Sometimes you are laughing and throwing your hands in the air and then other times you are clinging, simply holding on for dear life screaming it the top of your lungs.

Bipolar disorder
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I have:

  •  watched as someone I loved made terrible choices.
  • seen them yell over nothing or laugh uncontrollably at nothing.
  •  watched them ruin their very important relationships.
  •  sadly watched them spend money they never really had to spend.
  • experienced them loving with all that they had.
  • had the pleasure of seeing them so proud of successes.
  • watched rage over the slightest failure.
  • stood by as a mood shifted so extremely they make me feel like I was spinning.
  • heard things I wish I could un-hear.
  • witnessed them create things so beautifully that you know their soul is so pure.
  •  observed them destroy close to everything they owned.
  • been there in the happiest of times at their best.
  • celebrated them dancing like no one is watching even though everyone was.
  • loved them. Because we are all deserving of love.
being alone
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According to the source, Brain & Behavior Research Foundation, “More than 5.7 million American adults or 2.6 percent of the population age 18 or older in any given year have bipolar disorder.”

It’s my personal thoughts that that number may be even higher as many do not ever seek help and are not diagnosed. My guess is if you found this you know someone who has bipolar or even may have it yourself.

Over the years living with people who have bipolar and having them in my life I have come up with things I do when it comes to my relationships with these people whom I love so dearly.

You must accept the fact bipolar is a part of their life but it does not completely define who they are.

People who have bipolar have personalities, hopes, dreams, and aspirations just like anyone else. They are not their illness they have an illness.

Bipolar is not an excuse for everything.

While bipolar does affect one’s choices you can not just use it as a way to brush off bad behavior. There was an incident where a bipolar child broke something that did not belong to them on purpose. It was very clear that they did it with mean intent and they were making clear choices. My first reaction was to brush it off as oh this happens a lot the illness causes them to act this way. No, that is not how life works. Life does not care if you have bipolar, people out there still expect basic respect. The law will also not care if you child grows up and blames bad choices on his or her mental health.We must teach them that early. Interestingly when the child was not expected to act that way and received proper loving discipline. They started working towards better behavior.

Know what their triggers are.

In my experience, both children and adults have triggers that can cause a fast shift in their mood.By no means am I saying you should tip toe around them. We all know some things simply can not be avoided. However, it if is something that does not need to be done or said it is often best just to avoid it. This cut down on so many manic episodes for us.

Appointments, medications and seeking help.

One person in particular that I am close with needed to be often reminded that their mental health appointments and their medications were so very important. Yes, everyone case is different but for us, the medications and therapy would start helping some and their response was to stop the medications because they felt” fine”. At the very least I was able to break that cycle sometimes. If a person you love is threatening to harm themselves or someone else please make a phone call to get them help right away. Please, never brush it off. Ever.

Set clear boundaries for yourself.

There are certain things I will not put up with. I won’t bend or break on them. It does not matter if the person suffers from mental health issues or they do not. My lines in the sand are there. If they are crossed there are consequences. For example, should I have a friend with bipolar (or not ) and they were to intentionally physically harm me or a child of mine. The friendship would end. That is one of my boundaries.

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Give yourself a break.

Go grab a coffee with friends, go for a walk, find a hobby you love especially when the person you love is having a manic episode. Make sure they are safe and take that time for you. Being around someone who is manic is emotionally and physically exhausting. There is nothing wrong with needing time away, in fact, it is a very healthy habit to form.

Be an advocate

If the person you love is a child or an adult has difficulty expressing themselves to their doctor, schools, family please make sure they get heard. If it is a child and a doctor will not listen perhaps finding a new practice. So many times people with bipolar or parents of children with bipolar get brushed off by the medical profession when they voice their concerns. I have stood up many times as a voice to be heard and it has ended a lot of heartache and frustration.

Know what comforts them.

For some people it is a favorite blanket wrapped snugly around them, maybe for someone else, it is just a change of scenery, a hug or even to just be left alone. Comfort and familiarness are often very needed by someone who is manic, or depressed.

Remember no one chooses to be mentally ill.

Love and compassion go a long way they did not ask for this, cause it or choose it. While someone with bipolar disorder can become extremely frustrating or worrisome try not to be angry with them, don’t beg them to change or demand they stop being this way. This is not a choice, it simply is.

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I am by no means an expert

I am simply put a person who loves and is loved by people that have bipolar disorder. For more information, you can check out the following resources. What I have written are things I have done over the years that have worked for me personally.

National Institutes of Health – Bipolar Disorder

WebMD – Bipolar Disorder Health Center

If you or someone you love is threatening to harm them self please do not just brush it off please get help.
Call 1-800-273-8255
Available 24 hours every day 24/7

My personal thoughts.

Bipolar is not all negative. Some of the most creative, smart, energetic, full of life, fun people I know are bipolar. They are wonderful people that have a mental health disorder. The stigma placed on people with mental health is very disheartening. I have been through years of ups and downs with people who I love. I have stood up for them when they could not and you know what… they have done the same for me. At the end of the day, we are all simply human… please embrace one another through the perfection and the imperfections. #Love #Kindness #Compassion

Describing bipolar disorder quote.

 

 

Love Jennifer

 

15 Super Huge wonderful Excuses I Use That Cause Me Not To Blog

Every month I play for my web hosting for this blog that I so love. Every day there are so many excuses why I didn’t post a new blog. Listed are my top 15. What are your best excuses? *This blog is part of Mama Kat’s Writers Work Shop using the prompt write a blog post in 15 lines*

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The 15 best excuses I use to not blog. www.simplymoms.net

My top 15 excuses for not blogging yesterday, the day before that and beyond….

  1. No one is reading what I wrote. (Well boo hoo write it anyhow!)
  2. I have to clean the house in a huge circle. (Clean once and take a bloggy break!)
  3. My husband/children won’t stop talking incessantly and I can not think. (Someone please send noise canceling headphones!)
  4. There’s nothing to write about I am a boring person. ( Do something fun then!)
  5. People will judge me if I write about XYZ. (They will also judge you if you do not write it.)
  6. I can’t post what I want because the family will read it. (Oh, well.)
  7. My grammar sucks so why bother? (Hey girl it has improved so much! Be proud of that!)
  8. There are so much better bloggers than me out there than me. (Yes, and there are worse ones too.)
  9. That idea has been done 100 times over so why bother? (Who cares? Why do you care?)
  10. I hate following all these blogger rules. :/ (Why are  following these rules again?)
  11. I am too tired. (Stop staying up reading other people blogs!.)
  12. I would rather be outside enjoying life.( Yes! Then you can write about it!)
  13. I need to write that sponsored post first so I’ll be frustrated and write nothing. (Who made that rule up? Me? why?)
  14.  Someone will mistake my weird off the beaten path humor for rudeness so I won’t blog that. (Maybe that is why I write so flat)
  15. The grandchild wants me to read to her. (That’s gotta happen because <3 Books! <3 !)

Love Jennifer

 

In Sickness and Health

1. Something I learned in March.

Well since getting sick three weeks ago with Bronchitis I have learned that my biggest fear in life is not being able to breathe. In fact, it gives me full blown panic attacks. Pretty sure this is the worst I have ever in my life had it. I keep waking up gasping for air. So, lucky me sleep has been super nonexisting.  To make this all the more fun…every single last member of my family has it including my two adult sons who live upstairs.

Sick

2. Yesterday I forgot to…

Call my Mom, she’s been worried about all of us.  Well, I didn’t really forget I guess my voice keeps going in and out. I try to be a good daughter.  🙂

3. Today I will…

Make that call to my mom.

phone

 

Drag more laundry upstairs to my sons because my three-month-old washer broke. Gotta love that Whirlpool Cabrio. We are at week one of waiting for a part and counting. Nice timing with us all being sick.

Wash the floor while hacking up a lung. Sounds about as fun as dragging clothes up the stairs while… you got it hacking up and lung.

Rest my voice the best I can.

4. List the things you would add to your garden if you had a garden.

Carrots, potatoes, corn, peas, green beans, tomatoes, swiss chard, sunflowers, cucumbers, zucchini, pumpkins, and squash. That would be a dream garden because I can’t seem to grow a thing. Aww this all sounds so Spring like and healthy. Mind you we still have snow on the ground here in Maine. In fact THIS was April 1st. It was a joke all right. Just what we needed more snow.

April Fools snow storm in Maine

Love Jennifer

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Fabulous Five Friday Favorites

We are taking part in  5 on Fridays link up.

So once again it is Saturday and I am late in linking up. I guess I dance to the beat of my own drum or I simply need to schedule better. I am thinking it is the latter.

1. My Internet Friend’s Mom Blog

If you have a few moments go over there and read She is a sweet, southern, down to earth, God loving, Mama of three andI think what I love the most about her blog is her sense of honesty about herself and her parenting. Her sense of humor, love, and devotion are at the top of my list too.

Adventures of a Proverbs 31 Mommy

http://adventuresasaproverbs31mommy.blogspot.com/

2.  Making Our Own Play Dough

Little Miss Toddler Loved it as did I. I was surprised by how quickly it all came together. It is super soft, smooth and smells so nice.  I was also surprised by how quickly Little Miss Toddler got it all over her room when I had to use the ladies room, Clean up with her help was pretty easy, though. So no harm no foul. There is something about play dough squishing between your fingers that brings you back to your own childhood. This was a favorite activity for both of us thing week. Oh, and it is taste test friendly for toddlers if you skip the sparkles though I doubt it tastes to great. 😉

Would you like to make some?

Jello Play Dough The Softest, Best Smelling, Dough Made With Jello and a Touch Of Sparkle.

Green play dough

 

3.  Coconut Creme by Coffee Mate

My daughter has been going on and on about this and I finally gave it a try and guess what…. I LOVE it! Absolutely yummy and a bit different from my normal Mocha Peppermint or the like. Pretty sure this one will be my go to unless something better comes along you know like Pumpkin Spice in October 😉

Coffee Mate Coconut Cre`me

 

4. Cold Pressed Coconut Oil

This winter has been terrible on my skin. The typical lotion seems to make matters worse long term. I still can not figure that one out other than the fact that most of them contain alcohol. Perhaps that is part of the issue? Everyone sings the praised of coconut oil so I jumped on that bandwagon. Guess what. It works. It works for dry skin, frizzy hair, chapped lips, diaper rashes and I am sure a whole lot of other things I have yet to dream up.

Cold pressed coconut oil uses

5. Quiet Mode On the House Phone

Quiet mode on the home phone is one of my very favorite things these days. We have a huge family and with my phone constantly ringing I often need to shut it off so Little Miss Toddler can nap or stay in bed undisturbed by the phone ringing at all hours of the night. I also like it to carve out some peace and quiet during my day when my head just needs a rest and I don’t want to be connected to everyone and just need to get stuff done.

quiet mode on at&t phone

What have your favorites been this week? Be sure to share them in the comments below.

Love Jennifer

Five on Friday Link Up

Send Junk Food! Uggg! Crazy Period Woman at Large!

Mad Period Woman

Uggg! Whose big idea was it to buy healthy foods anyhow? What?!?! Me??? What was I thinking? Where are the chips? The cookies? The SODA!!!!!  Are you serious there is not chocolate up in this place? I must have been shopping for my healthy alter ego. Someone come drop off a bag of chips and a twelve pack of Coke and some chocolate bars. I’ll just much on this lettuce while I wait for you …

 

#CrazyPeriodWoman #WomanIssues #GirlProblems

The Word Friendly and Why I Had Stopped Blogging

I joined up Mama Kat’s Writing’s Workshop about a month or so ago. When I joined I was writing pretty regular and getting to know some of the pretty friendly people that also blog and join her link up.  I have known what the prompts were this week for a while now and just keep drawing a blank. Even still as I sit here my mind is just totally frozen. In fact, I have barely blogged at all. But I picked a prompt the word friendly.

So, really no blogs from me this week.

Why?

 

Because of life. Life just threw up all over me and I have not been feeling friendly, happy or like blogging at all.

I have been filling my mind with things like playing Ring Around The Rosie with little Miss Toddler. I sing she sings she holds my hands while jumping wildly on my bed and then we all fall down just so I can hear her laugh. Her laugh that makes everything right in this sometimes very, very messy unfriendly world.

I have been cleaning in a circle like I often do when I am stressed because my ADHD like symptoms show up uninvited when my world brings me for a ride that leaves me hanging on by a thread. This really mean the house is cleaned sub-par for my mind is hyper-focused on other things. So many things get started and left while I trail off to the next.

I wouldn’t call it depression. Maybe frustration that there are certain things in life that I can not fix. Or that nagging feeling I get that tells my mind something is off in life or coming at me and it eats away at me until it finally happens. By the time it happens, I am relieved in one aspect it did, it’s over and now it is about just getting back up and dusting myself off. Righting all those wrongs.

I have decided though it is time to just breath. Let things be and get back to being friendly, and doing the things that make my life have more joy and stop letting life sit so heavy on my shoulders for a while. Breath in … breath out. Ahhh much better already… right?

 

So while this is a lame blog post it is the start of pulling my boots back on by the straps. Therapeutic perhaps? 🙂

 

Tell me, when life does you wrong how do you bounce back?

And I will leave you with some happy moments from my week in case you have been missing our photos.

 

Boxes are a great place to sit for a toddler

Box with a Toddler in it
Little Miss Toddler playing Tablet in her box.

 

Turkey
Turkey for dinner because it is a comfort food and man does my oven need a cleaning. Yup real life.

 

Then go on over to Mama Kat’s Writer’s  Workshop and link up with those fine friendly people that make me smile each week. 🙂

 

 

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To Be A Mother In The Not So Beautiful Moments.

As mothers, we often witness things in our own children that we disapprove of. They are human as are we. I have always told my children I may not love all the things that you do or the choices that you make but I will always love you.

Mothering

The real test comes however when they make some really large choices that affect every person around them. What do you do then when perhaps they have not only altered their life but, perhaps in some way yours as well. What do you do at that moment in time?

I will tell you.

You will love them even more. You will be their safe place. You will not falter or crumble. You will not walk away from them with your eyes averted from disapproving stares from strangers or your social circle. You will love them.

One of my hardest journeys has been to support things that are not my wish, will, choice or way.  I have stood tall and firm with truth, and justice for those without choice. But I have also picked up a million pieces of broken heart, dreams and ideas and willfully handed them back to their rightful owner over and over again with as much love and care as I could muster knowing they may keep repeating their own history.

My children are not perfect. I am not perfect. It is a hard pill to swallow.

But, in every moment I love them for I am their mother.

These are Just Five of My Favorite Things

This week I have once again linked up with Mama Kat’s Writers Workshop. I picked the prompt  ” List your five most recent favorite things.”

Number 1.

Alone Time

Yes, I love my family but I do, however, cherish my alone time to decompress and just be. Sometimes that means taking a walk, or perhaps time on the computer to browse or write, then there are the times that I like to just sit in a sunny spot and just be.  I am by nature a loner.

Alone Time For Moms is Important

Number 2.

Food

I won’t even lie food is very high on my list. Even better food I do not have to cook or wash dishes after consuming. I love going out to eat To bad it is so costly to dine out because I would do it every single day. I know horrible.

Food

Number 3.

Coffee

The smell of coffee is the smell of home. No matter where I am that smell makes me think of my husband and all we have built together. Sitting down for morning coffee is something we have done together for twenty-six years.

Coffee

Number 4.

Fall

Sorry winter you are too cold and nasty, Summer you are just too hot and Spring well you’re okay but I really do not like the mud. What I do like is fall. The nice cool crisp air, changing colors, pumpkin flavored everything. It is the start to the holiday season which brings family together…speaking of the family….

Fall

Number 5.

My All Time Favorite My Family.

Not that this is even close to all of them but, I adore them all. These people make each and every single day better. I may not have tons of money but the people I call family, they are my true treasures. I am blessed.

Family

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