So you’re a stay at home mom?
Girl, let me tell you it’s been a drink twelve cups of coffee, pop in some ear plugs before my ear drums explode, hide the dog while his fur is still white and he currently still has fur, hide in the closet with a spoon and jar of crunchy peanut butter, pull out my hair and poke my eye balls with forks dipped in lemon juice for fun sort of day. It has been a day! In fact, it’s been many days.
Not that I expect rainbows, glitter and dancing bears but two minutes to pee and not to break my neck on strategically placed logos, Hot wheels, and little pointy Barbie shoes would be so awesome. Welcome to life as a stay at home mom. I promise you, you will survive and this all to shall pass…Then and only then will you miss it so.
Let me guess, you’re here for those tips. Tips, my friend I have five, in fact, I live by.
1- Go play! Yes, you too Mom. Go Play!
All too often we get feeling over whelmed and we want to shoo the kids off to some activity to get them untangled from our hair. I mean, after all, Moms need Mom time. How many times have you yelled or demanded they go watch TV, go out side or go play with the million toys sitting collecting mountains of dust?
What IF you go play with them? Get out side and kick a ball HARD, show them how to jump rope, double dutch, or run a race. How about you take those legos and build a house or a city? What if you all cuddle up on the couch and read a book or watch an old movie like The Wilderness Family or Honey I Shrunk The Kids (I just so dated my self here.)
Girl, do you see my point here? Sometimes those crazy moments are simply they want your attention. Your true, unbusy undivided attention. It’s a perk of being at home.
2- Down Time Sleep, Read, Play and STAY
What if I told you that your kids deserve down time and need it just as much as you do. It is sort of like eating healthy food they may not always like it but it is good for them. What if for one hour out of the day there was peace on earth and all that good stuff you know like not a creature was stirring not even a mouse and if he is stirring he BEST be stirring some quiet!
So here is the scoop, for an hour, every day at about the same time the littles nap. The bigger kiddos get the choice to read, play alone very quietly or stare up at the ceiling listening to the clock tick for sixty minutes but they must stay in their room or where you choose for them to go spend this wonderful hour of relaxation. They will rest & recharge and you get to pee, maybe a shower, maybe even make a call with out telling a stranger at the power company you “love them and goodbye” because the little is howling at your feet Yeah that really happened. Wouldn’t that be so amazing? Start teaching them now, today. They need it as do you.
3- Be The CEO Mom the BOSS Mom!
So you’re just a stay-at-home-mom huh? Just a frumpy run down Mama who is running her children around and throwing chicken nuggets on the table and sweeping the same crumbs up over and over in a giant circle. Sounds like a pretty crummy job no wonder you are here!Lady, you are doing this all wrong. Brush
Lady, you are doing this all wrong. Brush your hair, get dressed, buy a planner schedule your days and how you clean, plan those meals, budget, write lists, plan DIY projects, assign those kids some jobs, Create a freaking holiday if you like! Be the boss of your home. Run it like a well-oiled machine. You got this Mama! You are a STAY AT HOME MOM BOSS!
Brush your hair, get dressed, buy a planner schedule your days and how you clean, plan those meals, budget, write lists, plan DIY projects, assign those kids some jobs and create a freaking holiday if you like! Be the boss of your home. Run it like a well-oiled machine. You got this Mama! You are a STAY AT HOME MOM BOSS!Mama's don't get manuals. You are doing great! #MomLife Click To Tweet
4- Search out your KINDRED SPIRITS find your TRIBE
That’s right. Mama, go find some other stay at home Mama’s and you form bonds with them. So you can plan park days and trade off baby sitting.
Do Daddy and the kids a big favor and plan nights just for daddy and the kids have to have bonding time cause they love that stuff.
You go out with your girls and have your self a time. Even if it is just sitting in that coffee shop drinking those real fancy special drinks that are Instagram ( <– Shameless Plug ) worthy and you get to talk about how your little girl can say the alphabet, while standing on her head, with one eye closed, while balancing a ball on her ballet slippers. They won’t always be listening but they will pretend to listen to you. Your kids don’t even do you that favor.
The point is to get some friends, do some friends stuff it will fill your heart extra joy, laughter, adult conversation, and happiness.
5- Love is PATIENT, Love Is KIND love is FORGIVING
Oh no Mama, I wasn’t talking about the kids you have that down pat! I was talking about you. Be patient with yourself, give your self some grace. Give yourself a ton understanding.
Be oh so kind to your self. Treat your self to something nice and unneeded just because you deserve it. Be your very best friend.
We all have those days where we yell, where everything we did with good intentions failed. Be forgiving of your self. We learn from our biggest flops and failures. Mama’s don’t get manuals. You are doing great!